Hair, hair, hair! Hair’s always on my mind and it’s one of my obsessions! Even as I try to write this I get so many […]
Blissful Appreciation
Almost three and a half years after going full time and the impact of that decision is still sinking in! When people that don’t know […]
0 to 100 in Under 1 Second
I have a small confession to make: when I first came up to my family and friends I didn’t put too much thought into what […]
Pro Trans
What comes to mind when you read the term “Pro Trans”? You may think that I’m a person that supports transgender people; and of course […]
I Got Boobs!
This may sound like a celebration of a recent breast augmentation (BA) surgery but the fact is that I had mine back in November of […]
Eternity Followed by 2 Demi Pliés
Just before my last Wednesday’s ballet class started I lived through another out of body experience.
I Will Always be Trans!
Even with all the surgeries, wardrobe, makeup, manners, voice, etc. I will always be and feel trans. Even when no one has any idea and […]
Advice When Choosing a Surgeon
Someone on social media posted a question that was something to the effect of: “What advice would you give me when choosing between FFS surgeons?” […]
Mi voz día a día
Una amiga que estimo mucho y le tengo un enorme respeto me pidió que le contestara un par de preguntas en preparación a una plática […]
I Don’t Need Any of This Shit
Really, I don’t need the wardrobe I wear now, I didn’t need to have FFS, I didn’t need a BA… I don’t even need to […]
HDY Start Presenting as a Girl in Public
How Did You (HDY) Start Presenting as a Girl in Public? With a little over 3 years since I started presenting as Franches as a […]
The Story Behind my Name
Every name has a story behind it. The story behind a given name is often told by the one who gave the name, but chosen […]
MicroPost: How Did You…
One of the objectives of sharing my experiences here is to trigger the reader into questioning how they can take the leap to do something […]
The Normality of if All
Not long ago, a good friend of mine who’s still mostly in the closet, asked me if I was still developing breast tissue. I couldn’t […]
The Age Effect
They say that age is just a number but to me it’s also a reservoir of encounters, escapades, debasements, dramas, etc. all affected by my […]
It Wasn’t Work
After posting the Practice Makes Perfect – Duh! article and getting a couple of comments I thought I’d add that all the things I’ve done to […]
Practice Makes Perfect – Duh!
You’ve heard the expression “practice makes perfect”, which as expected just means that the more you do something the better you get at it. I […]
I Was Scared of HRT
Traducir este artículo al Español At the beginning I was scared of HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) and the changes that it was going to provide. […]
MicroPost: I Didn’t Change
I didn’t change anything.
How Did it All Start?
I often get asked how it all started, or other variations of the same question that include when did it start, when did I know […]
How Did it All Start? Phase 3 – The Decision to Move Forward
Here I continue developing the complex answer to the basic question of “how did it all start?” To get the full benefit of this post […]
Women Say & Men Say
When I open up I get completely different reactions. I really enjoy paying attention to these varying responses because they carry a lot of meaning […]
Death Suits You
A personal comment that blindsided me and came in the form of a very bizarre combination of 3 words* (in English). The Slideshow The computer […]
MicroPost: I’m Not Upset With Others
When I’m irked by someone or something, I’m actually irritated and annoyed with myself. It takes me a lot of self reflection, but every time […]
Teleworking Not Working For Me
Back in late 2016, the company that I work for decided to close down the office in favour of teleworking. From a business and corporate […]
MicroPost: Making Other People Happy
Quick thought of the day: “It’s sad that we don’t allow ourselves to be happy because we think we’re making other people happy.”
MicroPost: I Became a…
In the last few years I’ve become:
The Pretty Sales Associate
Today I saw a trans girl working at a department store and seeing her made an impression on me. So much that I felt strongly […]
MicroPost: It Doesn’t Matter
It really doesn’t matter. It only matters if it matters to me! That is always true. Always. (This is one of the fundamentals of Franchesism.)
When Should I Come Out?
Last night I dreamt that a friend texted me saying that he knew someone that was trans and wanted to ask me “when should they […]
Moving Forward is a Necessity
As a friend of mine is starting her own process I was looking back at my early days, my notes and some of my old […]
2 Year Deep Retrospect
I’ve always said that the word “transition” does not represent the way I feel because I don’t see my process as transitioning from one thing […]
Anniversary Season 2 Years After Starting My Process
This time of the year (September to November) is anniversary season for me. It’s a very special time because I remember the very first steps […]
Avoiding FFS Family Feud
When I made arrangements to have my FFS in Spain I thought I would be creating conflict between my family members. Thankfully I was able […]
4 Stages to Choose my FFS Procedures
Here I was at the end of March or the beginning of April 2016. I had met with a number of surgeons looking not only […]
Deciding Where to get FFS
After lining up consultations with a number of surgeons I was eager and nervous to meeting them. I wanted to know what procedures would benefit […]
My Decision on Getting FFS
When I made the decision to seek medical advice to start Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) I sort of knew that my decision included having some […]
Are You Gay or What?
I get this question from time to time and often I have a hard time answering. My issue is that language doesn’t allow me the latitude […]
Learning Explosion!
In late 2011 I had the most incredible experiences. I went from 0 to 100 in no time, and the learning was absolutely incredible. Everything […]
My Own Barriers
I often hesitate with decisions because of what others may think. In most cases that is not a reason to hold back. The best part is once […]
Changing Gender Markers
Probably not what you’d expect, but for now (and I’ve learnt to qualify almost everything with “for now” because who knows what I’ll decide to do […]
MicroPost: Facebook Interaction
I’d like to apologize to anyone that has left me a message or reacted to any of my Facebook posts for not replying. I rather not […]
MicroPost: Blog Images
All the images on this blog are mine. Many have been taken specifically for the post they belong to, while others were taken some time […]
Rejection or Abandonment
I knew some of my old friendships would not go with me when I made the decision to “transition”. What I didn’t know was who […]
Pondering Friendships Before Transition
Friendships were some of the most important considerations I had when I decided to “transition”. I first considered a point of view but suddenly got enlighten […]
MicroPost: “Transition”
Personally I never felt comfortable applying the word “transition” to me. It’s because I don’t feel I’m transitioning from anything to anything else. Having said that I […]
This Was Not In The Cards
I always thought that the option of changing genders was just not for me. It wasn’t supposed to happen to me; it was not in […]
Early Awareness
Since I was a kid I knew about the trans concept. Here I talk about a couple of memories trying to provide some age context. To me having […]
Memories Growing Up
For as long as I can remember I’ve had a strong curiosity and interest in dressing up as a girl. I’ve gathered a few vivid […]
Writing Is My Friend
Writing about my process has helped me better understand myself. It’s also been therapeutic in a sense. And reading my notes at a later date gives me […]