Often people say things that are meant with the best of intentions, though…
Nunca me hubiera imaginado
Muchas veces la gente hace comentarios con las mejores intensiones, pero…
Beautiful Movement
How many times have you seen a TV advert that has truly left you wondering? Probably not too many, and me neither. Though Toyota has […]
Un mundo lleno de posibilidades
¿Cuántas veces has visto un anuncio de televisión que en realidad te deje pensando? Probablemente no muchas, y a mi tampoco. Pero Toyota lo ha […]
Now
Three people live in my home: my mum and I.
Ahora
En mi casa vivimos tres personas: mi mamá y yo.
Penny’s Coming Out Letter to Family
Coming out to family and friends, for most of us, takes a lot of courage and thinking, if not full out planning. My friend Penny […]
A Love Letter to My Body
This is a love letter to my body. I’m in it as I navigate through this life and I’ve been wanting to say a few […]
The Burden of Privilege
After changing my gender expression I found some special advantages I didn’t expect to ever have. I’ve been thinking a lot about the seemingly innocuous […]
Never Had Gender Dysphoria
Privilege has followed me in so many ways. I’ve never had gender dysphoria and as a transgender individual I think of this as a major […]
Parallels: Rock Climbing & Transitioning
A few days ago, texting with a couple of friends, the conversation we were having shifted to comparing why transitioning is like rock climbing. I […]
The Future is Bright
As time goes on, trans, non-binary, and intersex experiences are becoming more and more accepted*, albeit slow. It’s always being a self-feeding cycle where as […]
When do you Stop Being Trans?
Chatting with a friend a while ago, she asked me ‘when do you stop being trans?’ At first I had no hesitation and my instant […]
The First Time I Shaved my Legs
The first time I shaved my legs… Wow! Such a small little thing that had such a life changing impact on me! But as incredible […]
I Am Now My True Self
I’ve had many people tell me that they’re so happy for me, even congratulate me, because ‘I am now my true self’. Thanks to all […]
Open Letter to My Comfort Zone
This is an open letter to my Comfort Zone. After so many years in an almost codependent relationship, I have something to say to it.
My Yellow Post-It
When I started changing my gender presentation in public I sometimes used a yellow sticky where I wrote “Hi, I’m transgender.” I used it similar […]
Social Distancing in a World Gone Mad
Just a few weeks ago, being out for dinner and drinks with friends was just a Saturday. Nowadays that is a risky, irresponsible, and in […]
Transcending The Insecurities
The other day I had a treatment done with my dermatologist that made my face look as if I had been stung by a swarm […]
I Think I Look Like a Girl
“I think I look like a girl.” How in the world I’m still wondering this after more than 3 and a half years of being […]
I’m Sixteen Again
The other day I saw an ad for a Mercedes-Benz CLA Shooting Break titled “Play by your rules teaser”, where the narrator hypothesises: Imagine you […]
Vulnerable and Empowered
There are times when I feel like I’m in a witness protection programme or I’m a secret spy for another entity. This because to other […]
What it Means to be Trans?
What it Means to be Trans? Oh gee, this questions has been in my head for the past few weeks, and the other night I […]
Thoughts of Regression
If you read through my blog you will find a few references where I say that I’ve thought about what it would be like to […]
HRT and Permanent Hair Removal
In my previous post I talk about Hair – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly and explain a little about my obsession with hair. […]
Hair – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
Hair, hair, hair! Hair’s always on my mind and it’s one of my obsessions! Even as I try to write this I get so many […]
Blissful Appreciation
Almost three and a half years after going full time and the impact of that decision is still sinking in! When people that don’t know […]
0 to 100 in Under 1 Second
I have a small confession to make: when I first came up to my family and friends I didn’t put too much thought into what […]
Pro Trans
What comes to mind when you read the term “Pro Trans”? You may think that I’m a person that supports transgender people; and of course […]
I Got Boobs!
This may sound like a celebration of a recent breast augmentation (BA) surgery but the fact is that I had mine back in November of […]
Mi voz día a día
Una amiga que estimo mucho y le tengo un enorme respeto me pidió que le contestara un par de preguntas en preparación a una plática […]
I Don’t Need Any of This Shit
Really, I don’t need the wardrobe I wear now, I didn’t need to have FFS, I didn’t need a BA… I don’t even need to […]
HDY Start Presenting as a Girl in Public
How Did You (HDY) Start Presenting as a Girl in Public? With a little over 3 years since I started presenting as Franches as a […]
The Normality of if All
Not long ago, a good friend of mine who’s still mostly in the closet, asked me if I was still developing breast tissue. I couldn’t […]
The Age Effect
They say that age is just a number but to me it’s also a reservoir of encounters, escapades, debasements, dramas, etc. all affected by my […]
It Wasn’t Work
After posting the Practice Makes Perfect – Duh! article and getting a couple of comments I thought I’d add that all the things I’ve done to […]
Practice Makes Perfect – Duh!
You’ve heard the expression “practice makes perfect”, which as expected just means that the more you do something the better you get at it. I […]
Women Say & Men Say
When I open up I get completely different reactions. I really enjoy paying attention to these varying responses because they carry a lot of meaning […]
Death Suits You
A personal comment that blindsided me and came in the form of a very bizarre combination of 3 words* (in English). The Slideshow The computer […]
MicroPost: I’m Not Upset With Others
When I’m irked by someone or something, I’m actually irritated and annoyed with myself. It takes me a lot of self reflection, but every time […]
Teleworking Not Working For Me
Back in late 2016, the company that I work for decided to close down the office in favour of teleworking. From a business and corporate […]
MicroPost: Making Other People Happy
Quick thought of the day: “It’s sad that we don’t allow ourselves to be happy because we think we’re making other people happy.”
The Pretty Sales Associate
Today I saw a trans girl working at a department store and seeing her made an impression on me. So much that I felt strongly […]
MicroPost: It Doesn’t Matter
It really doesn’t matter. It only matters if it matters to me! That is always true. Always. (This is one of the fundamentals of Franchesism.)
When Should I Come Out?
Last night I dreamt that a friend texted me saying that he knew someone that was trans and wanted to ask me “when should they […]
Moving Forward is a Necessity
As a friend of mine is starting her own process I was looking back at my early days, my notes and some of my old […]
2 Year Deep Retrospect
I’ve always said that the word “transition” does not represent the way I feel because I don’t see my process as transitioning from one thing […]