How many times have you seen a TV advert that has truly left you wondering? Probably not too many, and me neither. Though Toyota has […]
Un mundo lleno de posibilidades
¿Cuántas veces has visto un anuncio de televisión que en realidad te deje pensando? Probablemente no muchas, y a mi tampoco. Pero Toyota lo ha […]
Now
Three people live in my home: my mum and I.
Ahora
En mi casa vivimos tres personas: mi mamá y yo.
Penny’s Coming Out Letter to Family
Coming out to family and friends, for most of us, takes a lot of courage and thinking, if not full out planning. My friend Penny […]
A Love Letter to My Body
This is a love letter to my body. I’m in it as I navigate through this life and I’ve been wanting to say a few […]
The Burden of Privilege
After changing my gender expression I found some special advantages I didn’t expect to ever have. I’ve been thinking a lot about the seemingly innocuous […]
Never Had Gender Dysphoria
Privilege has followed me in so many ways. I’ve never had gender dysphoria and as a transgender individual I think of this as a major […]
Parallels: Rock Climbing & Transitioning
A few days ago, texting with a couple of friends, the conversation we were having shifted to comparing why transitioning is like rock climbing. I […]
The Future is Bright
As time goes on, trans, non-binary, and intersex experiences are becoming more and more accepted*, albeit slow. It’s always being a self-feeding cycle where as […]
When do you Stop Being Trans?
Chatting with a friend a while ago, she asked me ‘when do you stop being trans?’ At first I had no hesitation and my instant […]
The First Time I Shaved my Legs
The first time I shaved my legs… Wow! Such a small little thing that had such a life changing impact on me! But as incredible […]
I Am Now My True Self
I’ve had many people tell me that they’re so happy for me, even congratulate me, because ‘I am now my true self’. Thanks to all […]
Open Letter to My Comfort Zone
This is an open letter to my Comfort Zone. After so many years in an almost codependent relationship, I have something to say to it.
My Yellow Post-It
When I started changing my gender presentation in public I sometimes used a yellow sticky where I wrote “Hi, I’m transgender.” I used it similar […]
Social Distancing in a World Gone Mad
Just a few weeks ago, being out for dinner and drinks with friends was just a Saturday. Nowadays that is a risky, irresponsible, and in […]
Transcending The Insecurities
The other day I had a treatment done with my dermatologist that made my face look as if I had been stung by a swarm […]
I Think I Look Like a Girl
“I think I look like a girl.” How in the world I’m still wondering this after more than 3 and a half years of being […]
I’m Sixteen Again
The other day I saw an ad for a Mercedes-Benz CLA Shooting Break titled “Play by your rules teaser”, where the narrator hypothesises: Imagine you […]
Vulnerable and Empowered
There are times when I feel like I’m in a witness protection programme or I’m a secret spy for another entity. This because to other […]
What it Means to be Trans?
What it Means to be Trans? Oh gee, this questions has been in my head for the past few weeks, and the other night I […]
Thoughts of Regression
If you read through my blog you will find a few references where I say that I’ve thought about what it would be like to […]
HRT and Permanent Hair Removal
In my previous post I talk about Hair – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly and explain a little about my obsession with hair. […]
Hair – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
Hair, hair, hair! Hair’s always on my mind and it’s one of my obsessions! Even as I try to write this I get so many […]
Blissful Appreciation
Almost three and a half years after going full time and the impact of that decision is still sinking in! When people that don’t know […]
0 to 100 in Under 1 Second
I have a small confession to make: when I first came up to my family and friends I didn’t put too much thought into what […]
Pro Trans
What comes to mind when you read the term “Pro Trans”? You may think that I’m a person that supports transgender people; and of course […]
I Got Boobs!
This may sound like a celebration of a recent breast augmentation (BA) surgery but the fact is that I had mine back in November of […]
Mi voz día a día
Una amiga que estimo mucho y le tengo un enorme respeto me pidió que le contestara un par de preguntas en preparación a una plática […]
I Don’t Need Any of This Shit
Really, I don’t need the wardrobe I wear now, I didn’t need to have FFS, I didn’t need a BA… I don’t even need to […]
HDY Start Presenting as a Girl in Public
How Did You (HDY) Start Presenting as a Girl in Public? With a little over 3 years since I started presenting as Franches as a […]
The Normality of if All
Not long ago, a good friend of mine who’s still mostly in the closet, asked me if I was still developing breast tissue. I couldn’t […]
The Age Effect
They say that age is just a number but to me it’s also a reservoir of encounters, escapades, debasements, dramas, etc. all affected by my […]
It Wasn’t Work
After posting the Practice Makes Perfect – Duh! article and getting a couple of comments I thought I’d add that all the things I’ve done to […]
Practice Makes Perfect – Duh!
You’ve heard the expression “practice makes perfect”, which as expected just means that the more you do something the better you get at it. I […]
Women Say & Men Say
When I open up I get completely different reactions. I really enjoy paying attention to these varying responses because they carry a lot of meaning […]
Death Suits You
A personal comment that blindsided me and came in the form of a very bizarre combination of 3 words* (in English). The Slideshow The computer […]
MicroPost: I’m Not Upset With Others
When I’m irked by someone or something, I’m actually irritated and annoyed with myself. It takes me a lot of self reflection, but every time […]
Teleworking Not Working For Me
Back in late 2016, the company that I work for decided to close down the office in favour of teleworking. From a business and corporate […]
MicroPost: Making Other People Happy
Quick thought of the day: “It’s sad that we don’t allow ourselves to be happy because we think we’re making other people happy.”
The Pretty Sales Associate
Today I saw a trans girl working at a department store and seeing her made an impression on me. So much that I felt strongly […]
MicroPost: It Doesn’t Matter
It really doesn’t matter. It only matters if it matters to me! That is always true. Always. (This is one of the fundamentals of Franchesism.)
When Should I Come Out?
Last night I dreamt that a friend texted me saying that he knew someone that was trans and wanted to ask me “when should they […]
Moving Forward is a Necessity
As a friend of mine is starting her own process I was looking back at my early days, my notes and some of my old […]
2 Year Deep Retrospect
I’ve always said that the word “transition” does not represent the way I feel because I don’t see my process as transitioning from one thing […]