This is a love letter to my body. I’m in it as I navigate through this life and I’ve been wanting to say a few […]
The Dare of Genital Surgery
I had a hard time starting to consider genital surgery (AKA ‘lower surgery’). My brain would shutdown its thought process every time I pondered about […]
Never Had Gender Dysphoria
Privilege has followed me in so many ways. I’ve never had gender dysphoria and as a transgender individual I think of this as a major […]
I Am Now My True Self
I’ve had many people tell me that they’re so happy for me, even congratulate me, because ‘I am now my true self’. Thanks to all […]
No One Knew About Surgery
For my 4th gender expression surgery in November of 2019 I chose not to share it with anyone… Well, mostly anyone. Some few people knew; […]
I Think I Look Like a Girl
“I think I look like a girl.” How in the world I’m still wondering this after more than 3 and a half years of being […]
Vulnerable and Empowered
There are times when I feel like I’m in a witness protection programme or I’m a secret spy for another entity. This because to other […]
I Got Boobs!
This may sound like a celebration of a recent breast augmentation (BA) surgery but the fact is that I had mine back in November of […]
I Will Always be Trans!
Even with all the surgeries, wardrobe, makeup, manners, voice, etc. I will always be and feel trans. Even when no one has any idea and […]
Advice When Choosing a Surgeon
Someone on social media posted a question that was something to the effect of: “What advice would you give me when choosing between FFS surgeons?” […]
I Don’t Need Any of This Shit
Really, I don’t need the wardrobe I wear now, I didn’t need to have FFS, I didn’t need a BA… I don’t even need to […]
HDY Start Presenting as a Girl in Public
How Did You (HDY) Start Presenting as a Girl in Public? With a little over 3 years since I started presenting as Franches as a […]
The Story Behind my Name
Every name has a story behind it. The story behind a given name is often told by the one who gave the name, but chosen […]
It Wasn’t Work
After posting the Practice Makes Perfect – Duh! article and getting a couple of comments I thought I’d add that all the things I’ve done to […]
Practice Makes Perfect – Duh!
You’ve heard the expression “practice makes perfect”, which as expected just means that the more you do something the better you get at it. I […]
How Did it All Start?
I often get asked how it all started, or other variations of the same question that include when did it start, when did I know […]
How Did it All Start? Phase 3 – The Decision to Move Forward
Here I continue developing the complex answer to the basic question of “how did it all start?” To get the full benefit of this post […]
When Should I Come Out?
Last night I dreamt that a friend texted me saying that he knew someone that was trans and wanted to ask me “when should they […]
2 Year Deep Retrospect
I’ve always said that the word “transition” does not represent the way I feel because I don’t see my process as transitioning from one thing […]
Avoiding FFS Family Feud
When I made arrangements to have my FFS in Spain I thought I would be creating conflict between my family members. Thankfully I was able […]
4 Stages to Choose my FFS Procedures
Here I was at the end of March or the beginning of April 2016. I had met with a number of surgeons looking not only […]
MicroPost: Facebook Interaction
I’d like to apologize to anyone that has left me a message or reacted to any of my Facebook posts for not replying. I rather not […]
MicroPost: Blog Images
All the images on this blog are mine. Many have been taken specifically for the post they belong to, while others were taken some time […]
Rejection or Abandonment
I knew some of my old friendships would not go with me when I made the decision to “transition”. What I didn’t know was who […]
MicroPost: “Transition”
Personally I never felt comfortable applying the word “transition” to me. It’s because I don’t feel I’m transitioning from anything to anything else. Having said that I […]
Memories Growing Up
For as long as I can remember I’ve had a strong curiosity and interest in dressing up as a girl. I’ve gathered a few vivid […]