When I’m irked by someone or something, I’m actually irritated and annoyed with myself.
It takes me a lot of self reflection, but every time I manage to I pull apart the things, people’s actions, situations, etc. that upset me, the reason is always me. In most cases it’s for allowing myself to be in that resentful situation.
When I’m angry, I’m angry at myself.(This is one of the fundamentals of Franchesism.)