This is a love letter to my body. I’m in it as I navigate through this life and I’ve been wanting to say a few […]
Never Had Gender Dysphoria
Privilege has followed me in so many ways. I’ve never had gender dysphoria and as a transgender individual I think of this as a major […]
The Future is Bright
As time goes on, trans, non-binary, and intersex experiences are becoming more and more accepted*, albeit slow. It’s always being a self-feeding cycle where as […]
When do you Stop Being Trans?
Chatting with a friend a while ago, she asked me ‘when do you stop being trans?’ At first I had no hesitation and my instant […]
I Am Now My True Self
I’ve had many people tell me that they’re so happy for me, even congratulate me, because ‘I am now my true self’. Thanks to all […]
Vulnerable and Empowered
There are times when I feel like I’m in a witness protection programme or I’m a secret spy for another entity. This because to other […]
HRT and Permanent Hair Removal
In my previous post I talk about Hair – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly and explain a little about my obsession with hair. […]
Hair – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
Hair, hair, hair! Hair’s always on my mind and it’s one of my obsessions! Even as I try to write this I get so many […]
I Will Always be Trans!
Even with all the surgeries, wardrobe, makeup, manners, voice, etc. I will always be and feel trans. Even when no one has any idea and […]
I Don’t Need Any of This Shit
Really, I don’t need the wardrobe I wear now, I didn’t need to have FFS, I didn’t need a BA… I don’t even need to […]
HDY Start Presenting as a Girl in Public
How Did You (HDY) Start Presenting as a Girl in Public? With a little over 3 years since I started presenting as Franches as a […]
The Age Effect
They say that age is just a number but to me it’s also a reservoir of encounters, escapades, debasements, dramas, etc. all affected by my […]
How Did it All Start?
I often get asked how it all started, or other variations of the same question that include when did it start, when did I know […]
How Did it All Start? Phase 3 – The Decision to Move Forward
Here I continue developing the complex answer to the basic question of “how did it all start?” To get the full benefit of this post […]
When Should I Come Out?
Last night I dreamt that a friend texted me saying that he knew someone that was trans and wanted to ask me “when should they […]
2 Year Deep Retrospect
I’ve always said that the word “transition” does not represent the way I feel because I don’t see my process as transitioning from one thing […]
Anniversary Season 2 Years After Starting My Process
This time of the year (September to November) is anniversary season for me. It’s a very special time because I remember the very first steps […]
4 Stages to Choose my FFS Procedures
Here I was at the end of March or the beginning of April 2016. I had met with a number of surgeons looking not only […]
Deciding Where to get FFS
After lining up consultations with a number of surgeons I was eager and nervous to meeting them. I wanted to know what procedures would benefit […]
Are You Gay or What?
I get this question from time to time and often I have a hard time answering. My issue is that language doesn’t allow me the latitude […]
Learning Explosion!
In late 2011 I had the most incredible experiences. I went from 0 to 100 in no time, and the learning was absolutely incredible. Everything […]
Changing Gender Markers
Probably not what you’d expect, but for now (and I’ve learnt to qualify almost everything with “for now” because who knows what I’ll decide to do […]