Just a few weeks ago, being out for dinner and drinks with friends was just a Saturday. Nowadays that is a risky, irresponsible, and in […]
How I Used The Internet For Surgery Research
After all my research, short listing, and eventually booking my different surgeries I wrote a lot about my process and methodology. I’m honoured that my […]
Transcending The Insecurities
The other day I had a treatment done with my dermatologist that made my face look as if I had been stung by a swarm […]
No One Knew About Surgery
For my 4th gender expression surgery in November of 2019 I chose not to share it with anyone… Well, mostly anyone. Some few people knew; […]
Last Minute Decision
Though I had been thinking of the 4th surgery long before even the 3rd surgery (BA), I did not make the decision to go ahead […]
I Think I Look Like a Girl
“I think I look like a girl.” How in the world I’m still wondering this after more than 3 and a half years of being […]
2nd. FACIALTEAM Blog – Where to Have FFS
My second blog post on FACIALTEAM’s blog has been published! This time I go in depth on how I decided to choose FACIALTEAM in Marbella […]
I’m Sixteen Again
The other day I saw an ad for a Mercedes-Benz CLA Shooting Break titled “Play by your rules teaser”, where the narrator hypothesises: Imagine you […]
Anterior Pelvic Rotation
My term of the year for 2019 is… (drum roll, please…) “Anterior Pelvic Rotation”!
Halloween 2015 at Work
It was a Friday on 30th of October 2015, the day just before Halloween. That morning I was extremely nervous and even more excited. I […]
Vulnerable and Empowered
There are times when I feel like I’m in a witness protection programme or I’m a secret spy for another entity. This because to other […]
Guest Column on FACIALTEAM’s Blog
I’m very proud to share with you that my first guest column post has been published on the FACIALTEAM’s blog! Check it out here. It’s […]
Starting Dance: One of the Hardest Things Ever
This “little” anecdote starts sometime in 2016 when I used to ride transit to work. Back then, en route to and from work on the […]
What it Means to be Trans?
What it Means to be Trans? Oh gee, this questions has been in my head for the past few weeks, and the other night I […]
Thoughts of Regression
If you read through my blog you will find a few references where I say that I’ve thought about what it would be like to […]
HRT and Permanent Hair Removal
In my previous post I talk about Hair – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly and explain a little about my obsession with hair. […]
Hair – The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
Hair, hair, hair! Hair’s always on my mind and it’s one of my obsessions! Even as I try to write this I get so many […]
Blissful Appreciation
Almost three and a half years after going full time and the impact of that decision is still sinking in! When people that don’t know […]
0 to 100 in Under 1 Second
I have a small confession to make: when I first came up to my family and friends I didn’t put too much thought into what […]
Pro Trans
What comes to mind when you read the term “Pro Trans”? You may think that I’m a person that supports transgender people; and of course […]
I Got Boobs!
This may sound like a celebration of a recent breast augmentation (BA) surgery but the fact is that I had mine back in November of […]
Eternity Followed by 2 Demi Pliés
Just before my last Wednesday’s ballet class started I lived through another out of body experience.
I Will Always be Trans!
Even with all the surgeries, wardrobe, makeup, manners, voice, etc. I will always be and feel trans. Even when no one has any idea and […]
Advice When Choosing a Surgeon
Someone on social media posted a question that was something to the effect of: “What advice would you give me when choosing between FFS surgeons?” […]
Mi voz día a día
Una amiga que estimo mucho y le tengo un enorme respeto me pidió que le contestara un par de preguntas en preparación a una plática […]
I Don’t Need Any of This Shit
Really, I don’t need the wardrobe I wear now, I didn’t need to have FFS, I didn’t need a BA… I don’t even need to […]
HDY Start Presenting as a Girl in Public
How Did You (HDY) Start Presenting as a Girl in Public? With a little over 3 years since I started presenting as Franches as a […]
The Story Behind my Name
Every name has a story behind it. The story behind a given name is often told by the one who gave the name, but chosen […]
MicroPost: How Did You…
One of the objectives of sharing my experiences here is to trigger the reader into questioning how they can take the leap to do something […]
The Normality of if All
Not long ago, a good friend of mine who’s still mostly in the closet, asked me if I was still developing breast tissue. I couldn’t […]
The Age Effect
They say that age is just a number but to me it’s also a reservoir of encounters, escapades, debasements, dramas, etc. all affected by my […]
It Wasn’t Work
After posting the Practice Makes Perfect – Duh! article and getting a couple of comments I thought I’d add that all the things I’ve done to […]
Practice Makes Perfect – Duh!
You’ve heard the expression “practice makes perfect”, which as expected just means that the more you do something the better you get at it. I […]
I Was Scared of HRT
At the beginning I was scared of HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) and the changes that it was going to provide. It was the fear of […]
MicroPost: I Didn’t Change
I didn’t change anything.
How Did it All Start?
I often get asked how it all started, or other variations of the same question that include when did it start, when did I know […]
How Did it All Start? Phase 3 – The Decision to Move Forward
Here I continue developing the complex answer to the basic question of “how did it all start?” To get the full benefit of this post […]
Women Say & Men Say
When I open up I get completely different reactions. I really enjoy paying attention to these varying responses because they carry a lot of meaning […]
Death Suits You
A personal comment that blindsided me and came in the form of a very bizarre combination of 4 words* (in English). The Slideshow The computer […]
MicroPost: I’m Not Upset With Others
When I’m irked by someone or something, I’m actually irritated and annoyed with myself. It takes me a lot of self reflection, but every time […]
Teleworking Not Working For Me
Back in late 2016, the company that I work for decided to close down the office in favour of teleworking. From a business and corporate […]
MicroPost: Making Other People Happy
Quick thought of the day: “It’s sad that we don’t allow ourselves to be happy because we think we’re making other people happy.”
MicroPost: I Became a…
In the last few years I’ve become:
The Pretty Sales Associate
Today I saw a trans girl working at a department store and seeing her made an impression on me. So much that I felt strongly […]
MicroPost: It Doesn’t Matter
It really doesn’t matter. It only matters if it matters to me! That is always true. Always. (This is one of the fundamentals of Franchesism.)
When Should I Come Out?
Last night I dreamt that a friend texted me saying that he knew someone that was trans and wanted to ask me “when should they […]
Moving Forward is a Necessity
As a friend of mine is starting her own process I was looking back at my early days, my notes and some of my old […]
2 Year Deep Retrospect
I’ve always said that the word “transition” does not represent the way I feel because I don’t see my process as transitioning from one thing […]
Anniversary Season 2 Years After Starting My Process
This time of the year (September to November) is anniversary season for me. It’s a very special time because I remember the very first steps […]
Avoiding FFS Family Feud
When I made arrangements to have my FFS in Spain I thought I would be creating conflict between my family members. Thankfully I was able […]