From: Franches
Subject: Re: News
Date: December 8, 2015 at 9:42:48
To: JC
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Hi JC,
Thank you for your email.
Franches.
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>On Monday December 7, 2015 at 17:31, JC wrote:
>My dear Franches,
>Before receiving your email I was thinking I haven’t heard from you, since most of the comunication [amongst our friends] has been on WhatsApp.
>After your email I wanted to find the time to reply without rushing or disregarding you… so here goes my opinion.
>First of all I am nobody to judge you, but your news are very sad in my view, I think the lack of identity shows a very large void in your life, a great absence of God.
>We all have made our own life plans, engagements, marriages, families, some of us have been more and others less successful, we’ve also failed, but in the end we’ve tried to forge ahead with life’s ups & downs. Honestly I do not agree with what you’re doing, I think it’s very wrong, unnatural, it’s not something that as a father I could share with my daughters, or pretend that “is ok” or that it’s “cool”, when the job of a parent is to best educate their children in a world where is harder and harder to achieve.
>I recommend that you reach out to God, he is a God of second opportunities, and of thirds, and fourths….. If one day I can help you or recommend someone to talk to I would be very glad to do so.
>Greetings to T, and I wish you a Merry Christmas.
>With regards,
>JC
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>>On Friday November 27, 2015 at 17:57, Franches wrote:
>>Hi JC,
>>By now you should have heard about my news.
>>Let me know if you’d like me to tell you more and we can have a FaceTime call.
>>Sending you greetings.
>>Franches.
At first I was hesitant to translate this email thread to make sure I did not introduce the chance of any misinterpretation. At the end I thought I’d take that chance with the objective of sharing it with more people.
It’s Now 2025
This was my last exchange with JC. The friendship officially ended on December 7, 2015 at 17:31.
I needed almost ten years to reread these emails. Before that it took me some five years to be able to understand the disgrace he must have felt; for some reason. When I read his reply it hurt me a lot. I had such resentment that I could not see another perspective; his perspective.
The only thing that changed for JC was that he found out and it came from a third party since I never had the opportunity to speak with him. There was no point. With what he wrote it’s clear there wasn’t the slightest openness to listen to me. I now see it was better this way. Otherwise, most likely it would have been an even more disgusting confrontation.
And as I said in my last message to him, I thank him for his reply. There is no aggression in JC’s words but there is also no receptiveness. Although it was really hard to read it, his position is crystal clear and there is no doubt our relationship could continue. There was someone else that didn’t even have the time to reject me. They simply never spoke to me again.
Those were the first days of my process and they were some of the happiest of my life. The last thing I needed was to drag an anchor subsidised by someone against my being.
I’d rather stick with the support and love I receive from everyone that I maintain a connection with.
One thing. though. I’ll never know how he’d help me or to whom he’d recommend I talk to.🤔🤣